Getting One’s Hopes Up

The more you hope, the more you have to lose. The less you hope, the more people dislike you. It’s a dilemma.

I don’t like having my self-esteem lowered when I ask a girl out and she says no, so the next time I ask out a girl, I’m more cautious about it, and get turned down for that reason instead. I’m not blaming anyone, I just hate that I either gamble my self-esteem or put up a shield of indifference which makes people dislike me.