I understand that most people love Fatherâ€™s Day, but my dad abandoned me when I was 3, and only partially kept in touch with me. When I was 9, he started ignoring me. When I was 11, he wanted to be a part of my life again. Like the stupid sap that I am, I let him. Now Iâ€™m 13, and he doesnâ€™t particularly hurt me by what he does, itâ€™s what heâ€™s not doing. He never talks to me. He never bothers to see me, let alone tell me he loves me. I removed him as a friend on Facebook, blocked him, and blocked him on my email as well. Pretending everything is okay hurts me more. I donâ€™t want him. Everytime I have to do a manly chore around the house, I get upset, because if he hadnâ€™t ruined my life, I could do simple things painlessly. And then the message at church on Fatherâ€™s Day always makes me tear up. And I canâ€™t stand to watch families anywhere, regardless of whether they have a father or not. Thanks for ruining my life.
I happen to love my father. You should be ashaimed to say that about your own kin.
I know it is hard, but donâ€™t let hate poison you. You have a Father in heaven who really cares and understands, I hope one day you can relate to your father on earth, donâ€™t let it be too late, one day you might not have the chance.
The OP has no responsibility to love their father. Who they love and respect is up to them, and if their father does not meet the OPâ€™s requirements for such reciprocation, it is certainly fair for them to have little or no respect.
People who insist that oneâ€™s parents must be respected and loved regardless of the circumstances disgust me. Respect and love must be earned, otherwise itâ€™s worthless.